IT IS FUNNY TO ME HOW ALOT OF MEN AND WOMEN CONTINUE TO ASK THE QUESTION, "WHERE ARE THE GOOD ONES AT?". AS WOMEN, WE TEND TO ACCEPT A MAN BECAUSE OF THE FEAR OF BEING ALONE OR FOR THE THINGS HE STARTED OUT DOING TO GET US BUT NOW THAT THE RELATIONSHIP HAS PROGRESSED, HE HAS STOPPED AND GOTTEN COMFORTABLE. I BELIEVE IN 100/100% AND NOT THE 50/50% BECAUSE IF OUR AIM IN THE RELATIONSHIP IS TO PLEASE EACH OTHER IN ALL ASPECTS THAN THERE SHOULD NEVER BE A DISCREPANCY. WE, AS HUMANS, WANT TO HAVE A BALANCE IN OUR LIVES AND WHEN SOMETHING GOOD COMES ALONG, WE STRAY AWAY FROM IT FEARING THE GOOD BECAUSE OF ALL THE BITTERNESS AND BAGGAGE THAT WE CARRY ON A DAILY BASIS.
MEN, WHEN YOU DATE SOMEONE SOLELY ON LOOKS AND PHYSIQUE, YOU DON'T FOCUS ON EVERYTHING ELSE THAT SHE CAN OR CAN NOT OFFER YOU. YOUR ONLY LOOKING TO BE SATISFIED SEXUALLY AND NOTHING MORE...ONCE YOU GET PASS ALL OF THAT, THE WOMAN YOU ONCE LOVED IS NO LONGER KEEPING YOUR ATTENTION BECAUSE NOW YOU NOTICE THE LITTLE THINGS. YOU LUSTED OVER HER AND NOW YOU REALIZE SHE'S NOT FOR YOU. IF YOU START OFF WITH THE ROMANCE AND THE CATERING, YOU MUST STAY CONSISTENT THROUGHOUT.
THE ON AGAIN, OFF AGAIN RELATIONSHIP IS UNHEALTHY ON ALL LEVELS. THE "I'M SORRY" AND A BOUQUET OF ROSES IS NOT THE QUICK FIX THAT SHOULD ALWAYS BE ACCEPTED IN A RELATIONSHIP. AS HUMANS, YES WE MAKE MISTAKES, BUT WHAT WE ALLOW IS ON US. THE PERSON IS STILL THE SAME. SOME MEN FEEL AS THOUGH A WOMAN SHOULD KNOW HER PLACE IN A RELATIONSHIP BUT SO SHOULD A MAN. IF WE BOTH WORK FULL TIME AND GET OFF AT THE SAME TIME, DON'T ASK ME WHAT'S FOR DINNER. YES, AS A WOMAN, I SHOULD COOK, CLEAN, AND TAKE CARE OF HOME BUT SO SHOULD YOU. (100/100) YOU WASH MY BACK, I WILL WASH YOURS. THERE NEEDS TO BE COMPROMISES AND SACRIFIES IN HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP AND COMMUNICATION IS VERY IMPORTANT. WHEN THERE ARE PROBLEMS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP, WE TEND TO TELL EVERYONE ELSE ABOUT THEM EXCEPT OUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER(I'M GUILTY OF THAT) AND THAT'S NOT FAIR. YOU CAN'T FIX A PROBLEM IF HE OR SHE DOESN'T KNOW ABOUT IT.
SOMETIMES WE BLAIM OTHERS FOR OUR MISHAPS IN THE RELATIONSHIP INSTEAD OF LOOKING AT OURSELVES AND RE-EVALUATING THE SITUATION. AS WOMEN WE WANT TO WIN EVERY ARGUMENT AND SOMETIMES, WE NEED TO JUST LET IT ROLL OVER. A MAN ALREADY HAS THIS MENTALITY THAT THEY ARE THE "MAN" SO SOMETIMES WE NEED TO STROKE THEIR EGO AND JUST LET IT ROLL OVER BUT DON'T GET IT TWISTED. I AM NOT SAYING LET HIM RUN YOU...HELL NO! YOU CAN'T RECEIVE ADVICE FROM SOMEONE THAT IS NOT IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE THEY WILL NEVER GIVE YOU AN UNBIASED OPINION. THEIR SITUATION WILL PLAY APART IN THEIR ADVICE. "A SINGLE PERSON GIVES A SINGLES OPINION".....
IF YOU STARTED OFF COOKING, CLEANING, AND ALL OF THAT WHEN YOU DATED, YOU MUST STAY CONSISTENT THROUGHOUT THE RELATIONSHIP AS WELL AS THE MARRIAGE. FOR MEN, IF THE FLOWERS AND CANDLELIGHT DINNERS WHERE POURING, DON'T STOP JUST BECAUSE YOU GOT ME. YOUR AIM SHOULD BE TO PLEASE ONE ANOTHER. THE SAYING "WHAT YOU DON'T DO, SOMEONE ELSE WILL" WELL THAT BE TAKEN IN DIFFERENT WAYS HOWEVER DON'T MAKE IT A FORM OF DEPRESSION. JUST BECAUSE YOU WON'T GO DOWN TOWN ON A MAN OR FEMALE, DOESN'T MEAN YOUR PARTNER SHOULD LEAVE ESPECIALLY IF YOU NEVER DID IT TO BEGIN WITH...CONSISTENCY. DON'T GET BRAND NEW WHEN WE BECOME OFFICIAL.
LADIES, STOP THE IF HE'S NOT WITH ME THEN I'M GOING TO MAKE HIS LIFE MISERABLE WHEN YOU HAVE CHILDREN, YOU MAY NOT NOTICE BUT WHAT YOU DO, SAY AND ALLOW PLAYS AN IMPORTANT ROLE ON HOW YOUR CHILD WILL REACT IN THAT SITUATION AND IN LIFE. YOU DON'T WANT HIM, DON'T MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE CHILDREN EVEN HARDER. JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE PROBLEMS WITH THE DADDY, DOESN'T GIVE YOU A RIGHT TO NOT LET THE FATHER BE IN THE CHILD'S LIFE. SET ASIDE YOUR ISSUE AND BE A PARENT. DON'T GO AFTER THE NEW GIRLFRIEND, ACT YOUR AGE AND BE MATURE ABOUT THE SITUATION.
