BAD FATHERS, GOOD FATHERS VS. CHILD SUPPORT

       YOU ARE IN WHAT YOU FEEL IS A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARTNER AND UNEXPECTEDLY YOU GET PREGNANT. YOU ARE SO EXCITED WITH THE NEWS AND YOU ARE HOPING THAT HE WOULD SHARE THE SAME FEELINGS. SO YOU APPROACH WITH THE NEWS AND SAY " SWEETHEART, WE'RE PREGNANT!" SILENCE AS HE STARES AT YOU ONLY TO SAY, "SO WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO." YOUR HEART SINKS BECAUSE THAT IS NOT THE RESPONSE YOU WERE ANTICIPATING ON.YOUR NOW PERFECT RELATIONSHIP HAS LEFT A BITTER TASTE IN YOUR MOUTH.


    FAST FORWARD TO TEN MONTHS AND YOU GIVE BIRTH TO A BEAUTIFUL BABY. AS YOU LIVE IN THE MOMENT OF JUST DELIVERING THIS HEALTHY BABY, YOU REALIZE THAT YOU ARE ALL ALONE. YOU ARE TORN BETWEEN BEING A SINGLE MOM AND DOING IT W/O HELP, OR BEING A SINGLE MOM AND ASKING FOR CHILD SUPPORT.I AM PERSONALLY NOT A FAN OF C.S. BUT WHAT I CAN'T STAND IS WHEN YOU:


1) HOLD YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISSUES AGAINST A FATHER THAT IS TRYING TO BE IN THE LIFE OF THEIR CHILD ONLY TO BE BLOCKED BY DRAMA THAT IS NOT NEEDED.


2) DISRESPECTING THE FATHER OR MOTHER IN FRONT OF THE CHILD.


3) CONSTANTLY TAKING THE FATHER TO COURT FOR CHILD SUPPORT FOR MORE MONEY (THAT YOU MAY NOT EVEN GET) JUST TO BE SPITEFUL BECAUSE YOU HAVEN'T MOVED ON IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND IS NOW USING THE MONEY FOR YOUR OWN NEEDS.


BUT FATHERS, I HAVE NO SYMPATHY OR EMPATHY FOR A MAN THAT WILL NOT DO RIGHT BY HIS CHILD. WHEN YOU BECOME A FATHER, YOU SHOULD AUTOMATICALLY HAVE A NEW MINDSET OF NOW I HAVE SOMEONE ELSE TO LIVE FOR. IF YOU FIND YOURSELF IN A SITUATION WHERE YOU MAY FEEL LIKE THE CHILD MAY NOT BE YOURS, UNTIL YOU CAN PROVE IT, BE A FATHER BECAUSE ONCE YOU STEP INTO THAT CHILD'S LIFE AND CREATE A BOND, IT IS THE HARDEST THING TO BREAK. A WOMAN SHOULD NOT HAVE TO CHASE A MAN DOWN TO BE A FATHER. IF YOU CAN SPEND YOUR MONEY ON FIXING YOUR CAR, BUYING A NEW WARDROBE, OR GOING OUT WITH THE BOYS TO THE STRIP CLUB, YOU ARE MORE THAN ABLE AND CAPABLE OF BEING A FATHER. A CHILD NEEDS MORE THAN MONEY...THEY NEED THAT EMOTIONAL, MENTAL, AND PHYSICAL CONNECTION.


    MOMS, IF HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE A FATHER, THEN YOU STEP IN AND DO IT. THE CHILD WILL ALWAYS BE THE VICTIM IN A SITUATION LIKE THIS. ME PERSONALLY, I AM NOT A FAN OF C.S. BECAUSE I ALREADY HAVE THE MENTALITY OF MOMMY AND DADDY AND I WILL NEVER BE IN A JUDGE'S COURTROOM DEMANDING SUPPORT. A CHILD DIDN'T ASK TO BE  IN THIS WORLD, WE AS PARENTS HAVE TO BE MATURE ENOUGH TO PUT THE BULLSH** ASIDE AND BE PARENTS. MATERIALISTIC THINGS DON'T DEFINE YOUR PARENTING SKILLS, YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENT WILL BE WHEN YOUR CHILD PUTS ON HIS OR HER CAP AND GOWN AND WALKS ACROSS THAT STAGE. (PROUD MOMENT)




SN: S/O TO ALL THE SINGLE MOTHERS AND FATHERS HOLDING IT DOWN FOR THEIR CHILD OR CHILDREN. I COMMEND YOUR LEADERSHIP AND RESPONSIBILITY ATTRIBUTES.