Wednesday, January 19, 2011
LIVING TOGETHER VS. BEING MARRIED!
I was having a conversation with a classmate and she was telling me that her cousin begged her boyfriend to marry her because they were BF/GF for three years and lived together. She was doing everything to keep him as far as cooking, cleaning, having sex every other day, and doing as he wished to get the ring and soon as she got it, all that stopped. Which lead me to my next blog: Living together VS. being married.
Ladies and gentleman, I say this time and time again, don't accept what you are not willing to deal with. Serious committed relationships are hard to come by especially having both parties being faithful. But I must say there is nothing worst then a breach of contract once the papers are signed and you are now husband and wife when you start slacking. I can't stand when someone loosens up and becomes comfortable especially after marriage and truthfully that is a form of trickery and sometimes grounds for divorce. If you were giving head and having sex more than once a week, cooking full meals, washing and ironing his clothes, at his beck and call when your were dating, you can't stop when you get married. Granted everyone has their days and sometimes you will slack but when it becomes noticeable..Houston, we have a slight problem. Chivalry is never dead and it is always nice to cater to your man especially if he deserves it.
Your aim in a relationship is give the other person 100% of you IF they deserve it. Some of us ladies are going hard for the wrong person. If your aim is to please each other then 50/50 won't do because why would you want half of someone. 100/100 and there will be no discrepancies.
Fellas, learn when to be the aggressor, the best friend and the shoulder to lean on. You can't start off buying roses, opening doors, rubbing feet, giving massages, giving head, laying the pipe down PROPERLY (LOL), listening to all the problems and then all of a sudden, we are married and you have stopped all of that. You only want to have sex with me when you are in the mode and it is wack as hell...All I can think about is when are you getting off???..lol.....your telling me to call my friends because you don't want to hear my drama, no more back massages or foot rubs, and when I ask what happened to the flowers, your reply was, " There going to die anyway"...WTF? That is a big no no!
Ask questions and COMMUNICATE to your partner about what is on your mind because they are not psychic. Keep noisey people out of your business because if it doesn't involve them, they don't need to know. Sometimes when you get married, you feel like okay I got this person, so there is no need to keep up the things I use to do..right.....WRONG! Keep your man amazed and he will do the same.
But please watch for the signs of a jerk because all of his or her sayings start off as jokes. Once you pass them off, that is all the ammo needed for them to go harder and now the disrespect has evolved. I can't take when a man belittles a woman just to make himself feel good...It is never funny but that is for another topic!
Hope this helps...
SMOOCHES
Ladies and gentleman, I say this time and time again, don't accept what you are not willing to deal with. Serious committed relationships are hard to come by especially having both parties being faithful. But I must say there is nothing worst then a breach of contract once the papers are signed and you are now husband and wife when you start slacking. I can't stand when someone loosens up and becomes comfortable especially after marriage and truthfully that is a form of trickery and sometimes grounds for divorce. If you were giving head and having sex more than once a week, cooking full meals, washing and ironing his clothes, at his beck and call when your were dating, you can't stop when you get married. Granted everyone has their days and sometimes you will slack but when it becomes noticeable..Houston, we have a slight problem. Chivalry is never dead and it is always nice to cater to your man especially if he deserves it.
Your aim in a relationship is give the other person 100% of you IF they deserve it. Some of us ladies are going hard for the wrong person. If your aim is to please each other then 50/50 won't do because why would you want half of someone. 100/100 and there will be no discrepancies.
Fellas, learn when to be the aggressor, the best friend and the shoulder to lean on. You can't start off buying roses, opening doors, rubbing feet, giving massages, giving head, laying the pipe down PROPERLY (LOL), listening to all the problems and then all of a sudden, we are married and you have stopped all of that. You only want to have sex with me when you are in the mode and it is wack as hell...All I can think about is when are you getting off???..lol.....your telling me to call my friends because you don't want to hear my drama, no more back massages or foot rubs, and when I ask what happened to the flowers, your reply was, " There going to die anyway"...WTF? That is a big no no!
Ask questions and COMMUNICATE to your partner about what is on your mind because they are not psychic. Keep noisey people out of your business because if it doesn't involve them, they don't need to know. Sometimes when you get married, you feel like okay I got this person, so there is no need to keep up the things I use to do..right.....WRONG! Keep your man amazed and he will do the same.
But please watch for the signs of a jerk because all of his or her sayings start off as jokes. Once you pass them off, that is all the ammo needed for them to go harder and now the disrespect has evolved. I can't take when a man belittles a woman just to make himself feel good...It is never funny but that is for another topic!
Hope this helps...
SMOOCHES
Saturday, January 15, 2011
I JUST HAD A SHOE-GASM!
I went back on http://www.dulceshoes.net/ and had a shoegasm...lol...check out these bad ass heels from designers like Francesco Sacco and Casadei...
Damage: $ 795
My favorite designer for shoes is the one and only CHRISTIAN LOUBOUTIN! Check these out:
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| http://www.shoecrush.com/Francesco_Sacco_Shoes_s/173.htm |
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| http://www.dulceshoes.net/ Damage :$800 |
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| Casadei http://www.dulceshoes.net/ Damage $ 640 |
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| Francesco Sacco http://www.dulceshoes.net/ Damage :$875 |
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| Francesco Sacco http://www.dulceshoes.net/ Damage: $640 |
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| Casadei http://www.dulceshoes.net/ Damage:$630 |
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
WHEN IS IT REALLY OVER? WHY DOES YOUR PAST RELATIONSHIPS HUNT THE NEW ONES?
Ummm, that's a good question. Well let me take you down memory lane. Before my king came along, I was involved in a three year and two month long relationship with someone that I truly thought was going to be my husband. I was going to be Mrs. C......I really felt like he was the one. I was involved with him from Nov.1,1999-Jan. 2003. He was my first love and first sex partner, my H.S. sweetheart. I did whatever I could physically, emotionally and mentally to please him but my efforts were all in vain. I mean, I got dumped not even knowing, he would tell me things about how he still had feelings for the next person, just do me completely wrong until one day I had an epiphany and realized I deserved better. The relationship wasn't all bad but at the end of the day, the CONS outweighed the PROS and I just had enough.
Now I know your probably like what's with the intro???? Well someone asked me, " Why didn't that relationship make me bitter towards the next?" My response was, that relationship opened my eyes to what I didn't want to go through again but what I didn't do was take my baggage from that relationship into the new one. As women, we love with our heart on our sleeve and we go harder than a man will, so when he isn't what we thought he was, we put a wall up for the next and that is truly unfair. Men get hurt as well but you would rarely see a reaction because they know how to hide it. Ladies, we take our bitterness into our new relationship so instead of seeing the best in him, we are trying to find things to compare him with from the old relationship. Sometimes we can't recognize a good thing because we are too busy finding the flaws. Choosing a mate is a tough thing to do especially nowadays when people are so superficial that a man will pick a mate based on body frame and some women will pick a mate based on wallet size and when you mix these two scenarios together, you will never find your King or Queen. The excess baggage should not go into the new relationship with you so before you ask God for a good man make sure you put the walls down and allow yourself to get to know the man in front of you instead of comparing him to your ex. Your past is the past for a reason. God took that person out of your life for a reason so you should never dwell on the shoulda, coulda, or woulda's in a relationship. What is done is done! Allow that train to leave the station and board another one.
LOVE is a beautiful feeling and sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs to get to your KING. Every man has their flaws but when you compare him to the next, his flaws will be the only thing you see. (think about it)....
Just to help you out...take a listen to Usher with "His Mistakes":
SMOOCHES
Now I know your probably like what's with the intro???? Well someone asked me, " Why didn't that relationship make me bitter towards the next?" My response was, that relationship opened my eyes to what I didn't want to go through again but what I didn't do was take my baggage from that relationship into the new one. As women, we love with our heart on our sleeve and we go harder than a man will, so when he isn't what we thought he was, we put a wall up for the next and that is truly unfair. Men get hurt as well but you would rarely see a reaction because they know how to hide it. Ladies, we take our bitterness into our new relationship so instead of seeing the best in him, we are trying to find things to compare him with from the old relationship. Sometimes we can't recognize a good thing because we are too busy finding the flaws. Choosing a mate is a tough thing to do especially nowadays when people are so superficial that a man will pick a mate based on body frame and some women will pick a mate based on wallet size and when you mix these two scenarios together, you will never find your King or Queen. The excess baggage should not go into the new relationship with you so before you ask God for a good man make sure you put the walls down and allow yourself to get to know the man in front of you instead of comparing him to your ex. Your past is the past for a reason. God took that person out of your life for a reason so you should never dwell on the shoulda, coulda, or woulda's in a relationship. What is done is done! Allow that train to leave the station and board another one.
LOVE is a beautiful feeling and sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs to get to your KING. Every man has their flaws but when you compare him to the next, his flaws will be the only thing you see. (think about it)....
Just to help you out...take a listen to Usher with "His Mistakes":
SMOOCHES
Sunday, January 9, 2011
MY DREAM CARS FROM THE ONES I CAN AFFORD, TO THE ONES I CAN ONLY LOOK AT...LOL!
UP FIRST IS MY BABY AND THE ONE I LOVE THE MOST:
THE BENTLEY GT COUPE
THE BENTLEY GT COUPE
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| ISN'T SHE SEXY???? OMG |
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| UP NEXT IS THE BMW M5 |
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| 2010 MERCEDES E CLASS COUPE |
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| UP NEXT IS MY COCAINE WHITE RANGE ROVER....OMG! |
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| THOUGH IT IS NOT MY DREAM CAR, THE PORSCHE PANAMERA IS SEXY! |
Saturday, January 8, 2011
I AM AN OFFICIAL HANDBAG WHORE!!! I LOVE DESIGNER BAGS BUT NOT THE PRICES...LOL...
HANDBAG DESIGNERS LIKE HERMES (BAGS STARTING AT $6K), LOUIS VUITTON, GUCCI, BALENCIAGA ARE JUST TO DIE FOR....CHECK THESE OUT!
LOUIS VUITTON CAME OUT WITH A SILVER AND GOLD SPECIAL EDITION MONOGRAM VERNIS THAT IS SOLD OUT EVERYWHERE...( MONOGRAM GALLIERIA PM)
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| FOR THOSE THAT STATED THAT LV DIDN'T COME IN 20", ANGELA SIMMONS JUST PROVED IT WITH A POMME D'AMOUR MONGRAM VERNIS PM PRICES START AT $2K. |
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| THE GUCCI HYSTERIA COLLECTION I LOVE SO MUCH! |
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| HERMES HANDBAG THAT STARTS AT $6K AND COST AS MUCH AS $55K |
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| LOUIS VUITTON, MY FAVORITE DESIGNER OF HANDBAGS HANDS DOWN. |
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| VICTORIA BECKHAM ROCKING ONE OF HER MANY HERMES BAGS. |
Too many women are claiming and submitting to men that won't marry them. Dating doesn't have benefits.
It's no secret that I am in LOVE with the man of my dreams but by any means was it an easy road to get there. I have been in numerous relationships but only one before the one I am in now was long term. What's happening nowadays where women are asking, "Where are all the good men at?" is that they seem to have all disappeared but I have good news for you, they haven't. There are truly some good men out there but what you have to ask yourself is, " Are you ready for a good man????"
Ladies, a man needs someone that he can take home to his family and be comfortable enough to say and tell people, that's my girl! You can't judge how a man will treat you by the way he treats his mom because you are not his mom. You should never want to be in a relationship with a man that doesn't respect you. If a man is cowardly enough to belittle you, raise his hand at you and disrespect you, in every aspect that is NOT LOVE by any means. I am so tired of hearing women say my man hits me because he loves me....ARE YOU STUPID??? A real man no matter the situation would never put his hands on a woman. If you are still into drama and confusion, a man doesn't need that and it is actually a turn off.
When you have too many FRIENDS all up in your business giving you what you may think is helpful advice, it causes tension between your relationship because now you are listening to them and doing all the things they feel you should do in your relationship, when all along your man is the one you should be focused on. I am so sorry but a single friend can't give a married women advice because she is single and has that mindset. Communication and Trust are the main factors that will determine the outcome of your relationship. My motto is 100/100 not 50/50 because why would I want half of you??? When my goal is to please you, there will absolutely be no discrepancies. Also, alot of men and women get into these relationships by doing things in the beginning only to stop once your married and that is a big NO NO!!! Ladies, if you were cooking, cleaning and having sex all the time, don't stop once the band is on your finger. And fellas, if you were buying the roses, opening up the car doors, leaving I love you notes everywhere, don't stop once the relationship has gotten further along and you are now Mr. and Mrs.
Ladies, a great deal of how you carry yourself plays a role in you finding your mate. I am a strong believer in a woman is to be seen not heard. Your presence should speak volumes not your loudness. A man can spot confidence a mile away because that is what you embody. Do you really think he wants your loud behind on his arm, I think not. Relationships are all about compromise. Ladies, you can't win every argument.
So stop asking God to send you a good man because what he may send you at first will not be that but he is showing you that you are not ready for what you are requesting. When He feels that you are ready, my goodness! Ladies, If a man can love you PURELY without lying, controlling or cheating, he can do ANYthing!
I have to honestly say that I regret my first love and first time but you know what, it was a learning experience and a complete eye opener to what I didn't want in the future. Talk about getting dumped not even knowing only to find out Valentine's Day when he walks in with her and all the things he bought her...WTF???? He taught me alot and the relationship wasn't all bad but at the end of it all, the cons outweighed the pros.
Know what you want and set limits but not to high that you don't recognize what is standing right in front of you.
Smooches
Ladies, a man needs someone that he can take home to his family and be comfortable enough to say and tell people, that's my girl! You can't judge how a man will treat you by the way he treats his mom because you are not his mom. You should never want to be in a relationship with a man that doesn't respect you. If a man is cowardly enough to belittle you, raise his hand at you and disrespect you, in every aspect that is NOT LOVE by any means. I am so tired of hearing women say my man hits me because he loves me....ARE YOU STUPID??? A real man no matter the situation would never put his hands on a woman. If you are still into drama and confusion, a man doesn't need that and it is actually a turn off.
When you have too many FRIENDS all up in your business giving you what you may think is helpful advice, it causes tension between your relationship because now you are listening to them and doing all the things they feel you should do in your relationship, when all along your man is the one you should be focused on. I am so sorry but a single friend can't give a married women advice because she is single and has that mindset. Communication and Trust are the main factors that will determine the outcome of your relationship. My motto is 100/100 not 50/50 because why would I want half of you??? When my goal is to please you, there will absolutely be no discrepancies. Also, alot of men and women get into these relationships by doing things in the beginning only to stop once your married and that is a big NO NO!!! Ladies, if you were cooking, cleaning and having sex all the time, don't stop once the band is on your finger. And fellas, if you were buying the roses, opening up the car doors, leaving I love you notes everywhere, don't stop once the relationship has gotten further along and you are now Mr. and Mrs.
Ladies, a great deal of how you carry yourself plays a role in you finding your mate. I am a strong believer in a woman is to be seen not heard. Your presence should speak volumes not your loudness. A man can spot confidence a mile away because that is what you embody. Do you really think he wants your loud behind on his arm, I think not. Relationships are all about compromise. Ladies, you can't win every argument.
So stop asking God to send you a good man because what he may send you at first will not be that but he is showing you that you are not ready for what you are requesting. When He feels that you are ready, my goodness! Ladies, If a man can love you PURELY without lying, controlling or cheating, he can do ANYthing!
I have to honestly say that I regret my first love and first time but you know what, it was a learning experience and a complete eye opener to what I didn't want in the future. Talk about getting dumped not even knowing only to find out Valentine's Day when he walks in with her and all the things he bought her...WTF???? He taught me alot and the relationship wasn't all bad but at the end of it all, the cons outweighed the pros.
Know what you want and set limits but not to high that you don't recognize what is standing right in front of you.
Smooches
THE BADDEST IN THE GAME HANDS DOWN: BEYONCE KNOWLES!
More photos of the ROCK below:
Beyoncé Giselle Knowles (born September 4, 1981), is an American Pop/R&B singer, songwriter, actress and fashion designer. Born and raised in Houston, Texas, she enrolled in various performing arts schools and was first exposed to singing and dancing competitions as a child. Knowles rose to fame in the late 1990s as the lead singer of the R&B girl group Destiny's Child, one of the world's best-selling girl groups of all time.
During the hiatus of Destiny's Child, Knowles released her debut solo album Dangerously in Love (2003), which spawned the number one hits "Crazy in Love" and "Baby Boy" and became one of the most successful albums of that year, earning her a then record-tying five Grammy Awards. Following the group's disbandment in 2005, Knowles released B'Day in 2006. It debuted at number one on the Billboard charts and included the hits "Déjà Vu", "Irreplaceable" and "Beautiful Liar". Her third solo album I Am... Sasha Fierce, released in November 2008, included the anthemic "Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It)". The album and five of its singles, as well as the song "At Last", earned her six Grammy Awards, breaking the record for most Grammy Awards won by a female artist in one night.Knowles is one of the most honored artists by the Grammys, and third among female artists,with 16 awards—13 as a solo artist and three as a member of Destiny's Child. Knowles began her acting career in 2001, appearing in the musical film Carmen: A Hip Hopera. In 2006, she starred in the lead role in the film adaptation of the 1981 Broadway musical Dreamgirls, for which she earned two Golden Globe nominations. Knowles launched her family's fashion line, House of Deréon, in 2004, and has endorsed such brands as Pepsi, Tommy Hilfiger, Armani and L'Oréal. In 2010, Forbes ranked Knowles at number two on its list of the 100 Most Powerful and Influential Celebrities in the world she was also listed as the most powerful and influential musician in the world.Time also included Knowles on its list of the "100 Most Influential People in the World. Knowles has attained five Hot 100 number one singles as a solo performer and four with Destiny's Child. As a solo artist, Knowles has sold over 11.2 million albums and nearly 25 million singles in the United States. On December 11, 2009, Billboard listed Knowles as the most successful female artist of the 2000s decade and the top Radio Artist of the decade. In February 2010, the RIAA listed her as the top certified artist of the decade. In 2010, VH1 listed Knowles at number 52 on its list of the 100 Greatest Artists of All Time. BET named Beyoncé the 2nd most influential artist of decade, behind her husband, Jay-Z.
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And if she wasn't hot enough she pulled down $87 MILLION just last year. No one really knows her true net worth but in 2009, she had a net worth of $240 million. Now that's a BAD ONE!
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